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Although some consider Valentine’s Day to be a “Hallmark holiday”, I think it’s a great opportunity not only to do something special for your loved one but for yourself as well. I would say that assistance with love is something many of my feng shui clients ask for. Whether it’s finding new love or supporting existing love—it’s true that love makes the world go round! Here are a few feng shui tips to facilitate love for Valentine’s Day.
Colors play an important role in feng shui and in how we perceive the world around us. In feng shui we consider pink, red and peach romantic colors. Pink is more feminine and relates to relationships and love. Red invokes passion and sensuality. Peach is related to what we call “peach blossom luck” which makes one very attractive to others.
So, for single people that are looking for a valentine, wear some pink or peach. If those colors aren’t for you, you can add accents, or wear a small accessory or something hidden. The color peach is especially effective at attracting a partner. In fact, if you are in a relationship you should NOT wear peach because it might be a magnet for extra partners. If you’re in a relationship that needs some extra heat, wear some sexy red underwear. This is for men and women! I love suggesting the red underwear to my clients because they end up feeling very sexy and it gives them confidence. These “love” related colors can also be applied in the bedroom as wall paint, bed linens or any other objects. Red flowers can be particularly passion provoking. Furthermore, both wearing AND applying the colors in the bedroom make the feng shui especially effective.
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We talked about love invoking colors in the bedroom, now let’s move onto the furniture in this room. The bedroom is the space in which you receive rest and love, so it’s one of the most critical rooms to look at to support a romantic relationship. The bed should have a solid headboard that’s securely attached to the bed and placed against a wall. A stable headboard represents unity and strength in the relationship. In addition, the bed should be located in such a way that it has equal and balanced open space on both sides. Ideally, each side of the bed has a nightstand with a lamp. This symbolizes an equal and balanced relationship (or future relationship). If you’re single this also let’s the universe know that you have made some space, physically and energetically, in your life for a partner.
One more point about the bed, be sure to take a look at what is being stored underneath. If possible keep the area under the bed free and clear. If that’s not possible, be sure to keep only soft, sleep related things there such as pillows and blankets. That means nothing sharp, or sadly nostalgic items like love letters from an ex-boyfriend. These sorts of objects under your bed may symbolize subconscious blocks in your relationships.
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Continuing on in the bedroom, we can look at what sort of imagery you have around you. It is pretty common that I visit a single person’s home, and they have many images of single people in the bedroom. Or maybe even images of their parents staring at them in bed. How unromantic is that?! I recommend imagery in pairs, such as two stalks of bamboo in one vase or a representation of a couple in an embrace. Rose quartz is a pink gemstone that attracts love energy. A pair of rose quartz pieces placed in the bedroom is a beautiful and effective way to bring love into your life. You can place any sort of coupled imagery in the relationship area of your bedroom. If you are standing at the door looking into the room, the relationship area of the feng shui bagua map is the back right corner of the bedroom.
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Finally, I’ll end with the idea of self-love. I mentioned previously the relationship area of the bedroom. When you layout the feng shui bagua map, this is the far right corner of the room, if you are standing in the doorway facing in. Diagonally across the room from the relationship area is the self-knowledge area. This transverse relationship between the relationship area and the self-cultivation area is absolutely critical in receiving love. How can you truly love someone if you do not love yourself? In feng shui we call attention to this dynamic between love and self-love. You need to work on your self and inner growth to be able to attract (and/or keep) an ideal companion. As a feng shui adjustment you can add a feng shui hanging crystal in this self-cultivation location to bring clarity to your inner life.
In conclusion, for Valentines Day this year, take some time to treat and honor yourself. Give yourself a little self-love and incorporate some simple feng shui tips to love yourself and others!
Anjie Cho is the founder of Holistic Spaces and Anjie Cho Architect, integrating beauty, spirituality and green design. She creates and enhances balance and harmony by designing spaces with an understanding of sustainability and informed by the ancient practice of feng shui. Her focus is to create a nurturing and supportive environment for each of her clients. Anjie is a registered New York State Architect, Interior Designer, LEED Accredited Professional, and certified Feng Shui consultant. For over 14 years, she has been creating beautiful and nourishing environments. A graduate in Architecture from the University of California at Berkeley, Anjie is a sought-after expert in the fields of feng shui and green design.
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